“It’s only when the flower blossoms the bees will come. If you enhance yourself into a very beautiful state everybody wants to hold a relationship with you.” – Sadhguru
A few days back I asked the ladies in my life how they value and nurture their relationships. They answered that the most important relationships are those with husband and children. These relationships have to be nurtured with love, trust and faith. They also said that when the family members are happy they are happy.
Most of us when asked ‘how we nurture our relationships’, are not too sure about the answer. We often fumble upon our words and start rambling about relationships. While we become deeply focused on nurturing all the other relationships, in the bargain we forget to nurture our own relationship with self.
The truth is, that our relationships are based on what we are and until we change there can be no change in the relationships we are in. This simply means that – ‘Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.’
Once we start to nurture ourselves we enter a zone of confidence, comfort and love towards ourselves. In turn, we also enjoy all the other relationships with much more positivity. When we get a sense of the self-being whole, we understand ourselves and others from compassion point of view. This helps to have better relationships where we always build connections rather than defending ourselves.
Are your having trouble to connect with yourself? Don’t know how to nurture that special relationship which can help you change your life drastically? Here are some amazing ways in which you can nurture your relationship with self:
Meditation helps to uplift you and can work wonders for achieving that lost self-worth. Being mindfulness while meditating helps you to break free from the critic hidden inside you. This develops feelings of compassion, empathy and a horizon to your experiences. Negativities can be observed rather than feeling them. This helps to differentiate the positive from the negative.
Allow Room for Failures:
While we always strive for the best, failures just do not seem to be appropriate. But on the flip side, we can learn a lot from our failures. Consider this, when we want something and do not get it right the first time, we take time to reconsider, evaluate and think about other alternatives and are prepared the next time around. Though failures can be a setback and quite disappointing, to try and fail helps us to trust ourselves. We know that the world will not end if we do not get it right in the first go.
Set Boundaries for Yourself:
In maintaining relationships make sure that your voice and needs are addressed. It is totally fine to accept or refuse any inconsiderate, abusive or unfair treatment. If you show that you have self-worth, no one can take you for granted. Also, when others treat you with respect your self-esteem will boost. Not settling for less and letting people know about your needs in any relationship is not a sign of weakness, instead, it just lets others know that you respect yourself.
Try Something New:
How will you know if you like something or not until you step out from your mundane routine? If you have been longing to take salsa classes but are not ready to take the risk, just remind yourself you can do it. From time to time push yourself to set challenges for yourself to try out something new and meaningful. When these challenges are accomplished there is always a sense of confidence.
Pen Down your Thoughts:
The best way to give wings to your thoughts is by writing them down. By journaling, you explore and recognise your thoughts. It helps you to grow yourself in the direction you choose for yourself. Journaling also helps you vent your frustration, bottled emotions, solves problems and reduces stress.
Take a Break From Social Media:
We often compare ourselves to the people around us. People usually present their best moments and selves on social media as they want that there best should be visible. When we stop comparing with the people around us, we let go of the impractical standards that have been set. The best thing is to live in the moment and cherish every bit of it rather than comparing. This gives immense joy and a sense of happiness.
The more time we spend to nurture ourselves, the better we become and in turn, we have a better relationship not only with ourselves but with others as well.
‘I’m Writing Bravely for the Write Tribe Festival of Words – March 2019’
I have written this on the one-word prompt – Nurture
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