Goodbye to Many Lasts and Hello to Many Firsts #MyFriendAlexa

“Every Story has an end, but in life, every end is just a new beginning.” ~ Dakota Fanning (Uptown Girls)


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Adriana stayed with her daughter Kara. It was Kara’s birthday and a special one as the tween was turning into a teen. Together the two of them had planned a birthday party for Kara. Everything was going as planned. Just a day before the birthday, Adriana was scheduled for a routine checkup. After dropping Kara to school, she went for her appointment.

Her doctor was happy to see her but had a little surprise for her at the end of the checkup. He asked her to wait in his office. Adriana was a little worried when the doctor walked in with her reports. He informed her that there was a lump in her breast and they needed further investigations. He suggested a needle-guided biopsy to rule out malignancy. She agreed for the biopsy since the results would take some time and left the doctors office with mixed emotions.

On her way to school she was wondering whether to break the news to Kara or wait for the results first. Kara was so excited that she did not notice the grave expression her mother was holding back. Also, Adriana did not give a clue to what happened at the hospital. She quickly shifted the gear of both her car as well as her mood and joined in with Kara.

A week had passed since Adriana, first went to the doctor. She received a call from the doctor’s office confirming that the lump was malignant and Stage 2. At the mention of the word malignant, she asked the doctor whether it was cancer. The doctor confirmed it was cancer. At the mention of cancer, her stomach cringed and she felt her world spin. She could not believe what the doctor had just mentioned. Her mind was wandering here and there. The diagnosis indeed hit her hard.

That evening, Adriana could not help but look back at the numerous moments she had had with Kara. She could not help comparing her past with the present along with worry for the future. It seemed that she was saying goodbye to many lasts and hello to many firsts.

She did not want to say goodbye to her daughter who just turned another year older

She did not want to say goodbye to the first memory she created when she held her daughter for the first time

She did not want to say goodbye to be her daughter’s achievements – her first step, first walk, the first day at school, their fun dates, the shopping escapades, the travelling sagas

She did not want to say goodbye to a friend in her daughter

She did not want to say goodbye to her first kiss

She did not want to say goodbye to the heartache she felt when her husband passed away

She did not want to say hello to the fear that was haunting her

She did not want to say hello to the surgeries

She did not want to say hello to the radiation, chemotherapy and the after-effects of these procedures

She did not want to say hello to hair loss

She did not want to say hello to lost confidence

She just wanted the time to freeze, so that she could go back and unwind a lot of things

She wanted time to freeze so that she could see her daughter grow and graduate from college

That night Adriana went to bed with many thoughts which constantly kept disturbing her for the next two days. Finally, she took control of herself. She gave a call to her doctor and said yes for the lumpectomy. She offered her prayers to God since her doctor asked her to start the treatment right away. She also confided in her daughter, who despite her fears became her biggest strength.

She had almost 6 rounds of chemotherapy for which she shuttled between home and hospital. At home, she had her daughter’s support and the liberty of calling her doctors any time when in doubt. During the fourth round of chemotherapy, she met a plastic surgeon who discussed further actions and options for breast reconstruction. Before zeroing down on the final choice, she had many meeting with the plastic surgeon. She was happy that she had a wide range of options to be able to choose for her treatment.

Finally, she opted for double mastectomy along with tissue flap reconstruction. The tissue flap procedure was not an easy one. She opted for using her own body tissue rather than breast implants to reconstruct the shape of the breast. Since both the surgeries were done together she had an almost 15-hour long surgery, followed by 5 days in the ICU. When she finally went home she felt a new energy. She was optimistic and had shed off her fears. She was ready to say goodbye to the nightmares and hello to the many moments which were waiting for her.

Since that day Adriana cherished every moment. Kara’s graduation ceremony brought tears to her eyes because she knew how lucky she was to be there. Her life had a new perspective and she felt blessed to have a new life with her daughter.

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Well, about me I can say that I am a certified dentist, healthcare analyst, medical writer and above all a mother of a 6-year-old. Most of my day to day activities revolve around her and she is my inspiration to start this blog. As a mother, I experimented with a lot of new things for my little one in a quest to find the best for her. I just want to share my experiences of being a happy and content mum.

144 Comments

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you, Rohit!

  1. September 10, 2019
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    So emotional and motivating story. We must know how lucky we are if we spend our life normally without any disease.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Yes we must be thankful for each day and count our blessings. Thanks for stopping by!

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks, Sarika!

  2. September 10, 2019
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    Cancer can be devastating for anyone. The dreaded C word along with malignancy. Though treatment has improved still we have a long way to go to find a cure and improve life expectancy. Good that cancer did not spread and she got a fresh lease of life for her daughter’s sake.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
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      Yes, sometimes the battle has to be fought for the family rathan than for self. Thanks for visiting by!

  3. September 10, 2019
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    Poignant. You’ve written it well too, conveying feelings powerfully.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you so much

  4. September 10, 2019
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    Such a heart touching story which teaches us to be positive. Loved it!!

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks, Arushi!

  5. September 10, 2019
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    A very heart touching story. Liked the courage and loved it. So many things to learn from this post like we should live a life without complaints.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
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      Yes totally agree with you Shrishti!

  6. September 10, 2019
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    A heart touching courageous story which stresses on the power of positivity

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
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      Thankyou, Suha Vijay

  7. September 10, 2019
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    Lovely story with an inspiring moral. Good to find that the ending is happy:)

    #MyFriendAlexa
    #AditiReads
    aditikapur.com

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
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      Thanks, Aditi!

  8. September 10, 2019
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    A skirmish with death makes us understand the importance and value of life. As you say it is an end to several fears and the beginning of life with renewed energy.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Yes, indeed a skirmish with death can make us fight for others rather than for ourselves.

  9. September 10, 2019
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    nice post. and I really liked the title of the post. Something to remind everytime we lose hope in life.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
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      Thanks, Swarnali!

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you!

  10. September 10, 2019
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    A touching post which teaches about the feeling of gratitude towards life.
    I loved the title which actually bought my attention to the post.
    #PraGunReads #MyFriendAlexa #blogchatter

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you Pragun!

  11. September 10, 2019
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    A very emotional story. It teaches us so much. We should all live life positively.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you!

  12. September 10, 2019
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    Had a tear trickle down my cheeks by the time the story ended. Count your blessings is my biggest takeaway from your post. Well written.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
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      Thanks, Sonia!

  13. September 10, 2019
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    My mother is a cancer survivor and this story reminds me of all the emotions we went through at that time. She is truly blessed to have a new life going strong.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      I can understand your emotions as my mother is also a cancer survivor and blessed with a new life.

  14. September 10, 2019
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    such a heart warming story. lucky are those who get to live life all over again. so happy for her and god bless a child like kara to every parent. this world will become a happier place to live in with such pillars of strength.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Totally agree! Thanks for visiting by.

  15. September 10, 2019
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    So heart touching story left me teary eyes with sigh of relief , May every story of cancer patient have happy ending that’s only I can wish and Pray!

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Same here Archana.

  16. September 10, 2019
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    A courageous story Shubhra. Facing challenges in life with a chance of death knocking is never easy.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
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      Can’t agree enough with you Pragnya!

  17. September 10, 2019
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    BEAUTIFUL NARRATION DEAR.. Cancer z that one wod that can shake a life upside down of the bearer and the ones around as well

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
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      True Misha, it affects the whole family!

  18. September 10, 2019
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    This touched my heart. My dad is a cancer survivor and your post reminded me of the hard times we as a family were facing at that time. Its a battle for the entire family. Very well written.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      I can understand your emotions as I have also gone through the same. Thanks for dropping by!

  19. September 10, 2019
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    I have seen two of my close people lose a battle to cancer. Your story brought back the days of their struggle. Adriana was indeed lucky to be back!

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
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      Oh, lots of hugs to you. I know the oain that a person feels when one is going through the hard times of facing cancer.

  20. September 10, 2019
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    This is such a heartwarming story Shubhra.. One forgets that the biggest blessing in life is health ! You have penned down the emotions beautifully..

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
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      Health is indeed wealth! Thanks for visiting by!

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you Gurjeet!

  21. September 10, 2019
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    Such an emotionally stirring tale, hospice literature always stirs me

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you!

  22. September 10, 2019
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    Wonderfully narrated by you. The lines with ‘She did not…’ have such an emotional impact!

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
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      Thanks, Ninu!

  23. September 10, 2019
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    Indeed a touching story. I am in awe of fiction writers.

    The mother and daughter are indeed the lucky ones to successfully battle cancer.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
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      Thanks, Ritu

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Thankyou!

  24. September 10, 2019
    Reply

    Loved this amazing story. Your writing style is amazing.🙂

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks, Nazish

  25. September 10, 2019
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    The C story…..rare positive endings like this. I just returned from the hospital. My bhabhi is in her last days and it makes me sick looking at her suffer.
    #wordsmithkaurreads #MyFriendAlexa #BlogChatter

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
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      My mother is a cancer survivor and I know how hard it can get to deal with the whole situation. Hope you and your family get the strength to deal with the situation.

  26. September 10, 2019
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    This story covers it all right from a strong mother-daughter bond to the difficult phases of her life. Totally got engrossed!
    #MyFriendAlexa #vigorousreads

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks, Varsha!

  27. Ruchi Verma
    September 10, 2019
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    I really got little emotional with the flow of the story…It’s really touching …Thanks for sharing

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you!

  28. Noor Anand Chawla
    September 10, 2019
    Reply

    Good health is the biggest blessing in life. What a wonderful story!

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
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      Thanks, Noor!

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Yes, we do!

  29. September 10, 2019
    Reply

    A beautifully written touching story. Makes one feel gratitude towards what we have rather than complain about what we don’t!

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you!

  30. September 10, 2019
    Reply

    Heart touching story, Indeed we should value our life and health .#millennialscribbler #myfriendalexa

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
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      Yes, indeed we should value our life and health. In short count our blessings!

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you!

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks, Pratibha!

  31. September 10, 2019
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    Cancer in today’s population is becoming a fast-growing problem. the way you’ve depicted the story of the turmoils and difficult time she faced in very touching.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
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      Thanks, Richa!

  32. September 10, 2019
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    Hi, that was quite an emotional post/ story. I can understand how hard it is when a stream of emotions (most of them negative) holds a person captive. Nice end to the story. It would indeed be wonderful if most of the stories end that way in reality too.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
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      I wish most of these could end on a happy note in reality as well. Thanks for visiting by!

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you so much!

  33. September 10, 2019
    Reply

    just speechless post is well-written post ty for sharing

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 10, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you!

  34. September 11, 2019
    Reply

    This post brings out a cancer patient’s thoughts and feelings accurately. It gives us an inside view of the turmoil that goes on.,.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 11, 2019
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      Thanks, Brinda!

  35. saba ladha
    September 11, 2019
    Reply

    A beautiful story with lots of feel in it though it was very emotional

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 11, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks, Saba

  36. Akanksha Singh
    September 11, 2019
    Reply

    What a beautiful story… You are such a skilled writer girl…

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 11, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks, Akansha

  37. September 11, 2019
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    I had tear in my eyes while reading it. the story has remind me one of my dear friend who had lost her life due to Cancer last year. very well written and you had expressed all emotions so well. #Surbhireads #MyfriendAlexa

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 11, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you so much Surbhi

  38. September 11, 2019
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    A very heart touching story that inspires and instills courage in others. Life shouldn’t be taken for granted for sure.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 11, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you!

  39. September 11, 2019
    Reply

    So heart touching. Thanks for medical sciences. Great reminder to be thankful to everything in life.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 11, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks Kinshoo

  40. September 11, 2019
    Reply

    This is an inspiring tale and I must say you have penned it very well. Yes life turns around after an End too.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 11, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you, Judy!

  41. September 11, 2019
    Reply

    That was a touching emotional and inspirational story

    I liked it so much

    It makes me emotional can relate somewhat

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 11, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you, Anurag!

  42. September 11, 2019
    Reply

    It is so beautifully written, got me connected with the story right from the beginning. Beautifully crafted.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 11, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks, Pooja!

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 11, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks, Vidhya!

  43. September 11, 2019
    Reply

    Such a poignant tale, written very well. Count your blessings is all I would say.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 11, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks, Vartika!

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 12, 2019
      Reply

      Sure Rohan. Thanks for visiting by!

  44. September 12, 2019
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    What a fab positive story! It truly reminded me of a dear someone of mine who went through similar stages of cancer. It takes all the willpower to survive this dreaded disease.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 12, 2019
      Reply

      Yes it does. Thanks for visiting by!

  45. September 12, 2019
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    A heartwarming story.Glad to see it have a happy ending.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 12, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you!

  46. September 12, 2019
    Reply

    Beautifully written Shubhra… Reminds all of us to make the most of the time we have with us…

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 12, 2019
      Reply

      Yes it does. Thanks for visiting by!

  47. Sarah
    September 12, 2019
    Reply

    This Was indeed very emotional and touching story . Makes me more grateful for not having such health problems.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 12, 2019
      Reply

      It is a blessing to be disease free. Thanks for visiting by!

  48. September 12, 2019
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    Hey Shubhra, your post has received so many positive comments and feedback … So I am wondering what should I write….
    It is simply awesome.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 13, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks for visiting by 🙂

  49. September 12, 2019
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    A heart warming read. – both emotional and inspiring.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 13, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks, Charu!

  50. September 13, 2019
    Reply

    Emotional and heart touching with a positive ending and a strong message. I loved the heading of your story as well. Beautiful creation
    #readbypreetispanorama

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 13, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks, Preeti!

  51. September 13, 2019
    Reply

    Heart touching story!! Beautifully penned down. My mom is a cancer survivor. I still remember the hard time we faced when our pillar of strength was bed ridden.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 13, 2019
      Reply

      Loads of hugs and warm wishes for your mom!

  52. September 13, 2019
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    Heartfelt story and it motivates to look for a silver lining in a black cloud.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 15, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you!

  53. September 13, 2019
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    That is so heartbreaking. We must be grateful for what we have in life. Beautifully penned.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 15, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you Preetjyot!

  54. September 13, 2019
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    So heart touching that couldn’t read middle portion , directly jumped on happy ending , so powerful writing

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 15, 2019
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      Thanks, Rajesh!

  55. September 14, 2019
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    A very emotional and inspirational story….The story tells about emotions , strength , relationships , love. Good one . I enjoyed it

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 15, 2019
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      Thanks, Monika!

  56. September 14, 2019
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    Poignant. A reminder that things could change anytime. A very touching story.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 15, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you Resha!

  57. September 15, 2019
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    Thats a story of coming out of darkness if illness and survival but most of all about a mother wanting to be there for her child & savour a life with her! Beautifully written

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 15, 2019
      Reply

      Yes indeed Vashi! Thanks for visiting by!

  58. September 15, 2019
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    This is such a touching story. Life is full of surprises, sometimes nasty ones, but the only real choice we have is to move forward.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 16, 2019
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      Yes, I agree. Thanks for visiting by!

  59. Bushra
    September 15, 2019
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    heart touching and inspirational story, love the optimistic ending

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 16, 2019
      Reply

      Thankyou Bushra!

  60. September 16, 2019
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    very emotional yet motivating story. the strength of love can get a person through any battle.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 16, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks for visiting by Ujjwal!

  61. September 17, 2019
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    One of the best story I read today! Deeply touched.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 17, 2019
      Reply

      Thank you so much!

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