When and what is the correct age to get her ears pierced? There might be several answers for that but the correct time should be when she is ready…
I first got my daughter’s ears pierced, yes … I have got her ears pierced more than once. My little one used to look like a boy. Also, she had a boy cut hairstyle and if she did not wear a frock it was difficult to identify her as a girl. At various occasions, I had discussed with her father to get her ears pierced, but he would just say NO, for the simple reason that he could not bear to see the pain and tears in his angel’s eyes.
She was 18 months old when I got her ears pierced for the first time. We, my daughter and I had gone visiting my sister. One of the top things do to on my list was to get her ears pierced. So one day my sister called up a doctor friend of hers. She fixed up an appointment for the same and we invited her over for lunch. A lavish menu was planned, right from appetizing starters and drinks to desserts. Imagine, having such luxurious arrangements for one person.
The whole night I could not sleep, as I was excited, anxious and also a little scared for my little one. I was not sure how she would behave, whether she would cry or refuse or just get it done outright. I prayed for her and to tell you the truth I was also feeling jittery.
When we got up the next day, while my sister was busy with all the preparations, I had started getting nervous. Also, a point came when I told my sister that we should forget about the piercing. She pacified me and I walked along the line with her. Soon time flew and the bell rang just minutes before the specified lunch time. Her friend arrived with all the paraphernalia and a box of chocolates each for my daughter and nephew. After we all had a sumptuous meal, the time came for what my sister’s friend had come for. She took out some studs from which we could choose. She said that children have tender ear cartilage and can be pierced without a gun. At this, I freaked out and refused to get the procedure done. Everyone calmed me and I was sent to the other room. Minutes later, I heard my daughter howling and screaming. I was also crying and just wanted to rush out and stop everything. I wish I had done it and not stopped myself from going out. Once I united with my daughter she was inconsolable, we had to distract her and I felt GUILTY.
On returning home, my husband was surprised with my daughter’s piercing and was not too happy (though he did not express it). Within the next 3-4 months, her ear studs came off one by one. They got entangled in some clothing. Also, she developed some infection due to the constant rubbing and irritation. When the infection healed then I offered to put the studs back. She refused because she was basically reminded of the pain and trauma she had undergone. Also, by now the holes had shrunk and I did not force her too much as well.
Two years passed by and this time around my daughter expressed to get her ears pierced. I along with my mother took her to a jewelry store where they performed the task by a gun. At first, she was a bit hesitant, and I spoke to her that if she wanted to opt-out of it, she could. All she said was, “Mom please hold my hand tight.” She did cry as she was petrified by the previous incident. We offered her some chocolates after one ear was done and calmed her down completely before the other ear could be done. After she got her piercing done she gave a call to her father and narrated the whole incident to him with an excited tone. We also put her on an antibiotic and analgesic coverage for 3 days, as last time I had not done so. Since that day she has been showing off her ears to everyone. Now she has also started pulling her hair back and gets a ponytail made so that her ears are visible to everyone.
The lesson which I learned through her ear piercing incident was that the first time she was not ready and I just forced her. Even though my inner voice was screaming out loud not to get it done I still went ahead with the whole procedure. Also, I did not take any preventive as well as corrective measures to safeguard her ears. Somewhere, I failed to protect my little one and she lost trust in me. Though the next time around it was her willingness to get it done and this time she asked me to stay with her rather than leave her alone.
I am sorry my precious angel that I pushed you into something for which you were not ready and should have waited till you gave me a signal. Though it happened with me once, and since then I make sure that I do not repeat this mistake again.
Do let me know your story when you took your child for ear piercing.