Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place. – Zora Neale Hurston
Six months back something really painful happened. The people we trusted behaved so badly with us, with my family. This almost felt like a breach of trust. The whole scene blew up so much out of proportion that it started affecting us and that too in a negative manner. While we were trying to cope with the situation our daughter was also affected by the same. I could see her struggling with her emotions. I watched her battle with betrayal and anger.
I was broken to see her. Moreover, I was mad at how some people’s poor choices could affect my little one. She would return upset from the park where she plays in the evenings and had started building walls around her. I cried seeing her like this and felt sorry that she has to go through all of it. The walls she had started to build would definitely turn out to be damaging in the long run. She would be at a big loss.
While I was contemplating with my feelings and how to take care of my daughter and the situation, I knew one thing that it is best to let go … thus Forgiveness
Once my daughter grows up and steps into the world she would have many incidents where she will be lied to, cheated or treated badly. If now I don’t inculcate forgiveness she will build stronger walls and in turn hurt herself.
By forgiveness, I don’t mean that it has to be an on-spot sorry. This will take time … a week … some months or maybe a year. The power of forgiveness is such that it allows the person to accept others despite all the wrong deed they have done. This needs to come from the fact that we can put aside the feeling to showdown someone. This means that no one is perfect and also means that we give the other person a second chance which otherwise they would never deserve.
When we have walked through the pain and we have the ability to forgive we become better and conquer the situation. Teaching children forgiveness is like investing in their emotional health. When they have the ability to forgive they learn to trust, love, inspire and turn out to be stronger than ever.
When we are angry we often distance ourselves from those we love and engulf in self-pride. We forget to see all the love all over. Learning to forgive gives us a chance to appreciate what we have. The past cannot be undone but a better future can be paved. It is necessary to build bridges when needed and also walk over it with a smile.
I’m Writing Bravely for the Write Tribe Festival of Words – March 2019