God’s Special Friends

They are special and differently abled; don’t look down upon them with pity. Instead love them and accept them as they are God’s special children.

Almost two years after her marriage to Rohan, Kavya was pregnant with their first baby. All the people around her left no stone unturned to take care of her. She was pampered by everyone from her husband, in-laws, parents to relatives, friends, and colleagues … and finally, the d-day arrived. Kavya and Rohan’s little bundle of joy arrived. Everyone associated with the couple was very happy and could not wait to meet the little angle – Ansh. He had acquired the best features from both his parents.

naughty

Soon after they got Ansh home and Kavya got very busy with him. She was so busy that she did not even realise that Ansh’s first birthday arrived. By the time he was almost two Ansh showed a lack of interaction with others as well as a nonverbal behaviour. He would often perform repetitive activities and go round and round in circles. Also, he would clap his hands hard when excited. These strange characteristics worried both Rohan and Kavya. They took him to the best paediatrician in town. Some screening tests were prescribed to them. After the reports came, they were told the news that Ansh had AUTISM. Kavya and Rohan were not even aware what this meant. When the doctor explained to them that “Autism is a neuro-developmental disorder characterized by impaired social interaction, verbal and non-verbal communication, and restricted and repetitive behaviour,” their world came crashing down. It was hard for them to believe that God could be so unfair to them. Kavya and Rohan were in a state of shock and as days and months passed by, they went through the stages of grief from shock to denial to anger, despair, and depression.

School

After almost 6 months Kavya started stepping out of the house with Ansh. She would take him out for long walks, talk to him and read out stories to him. Other children would often call Ansh by names and term him as abnormal. Kavya would be really upset and hide her tears. One day after their walk they sat down on a bench and Kavya overheard a conversation of a group of mothers sitting close by. Each one was talking about their child’s flaws and how to improve that. She wondered that these mothers had normal children and were still talking about their shortcomings. She looked at her son and in turn got a big bright smile. Her eyes were filled with tears and she eventually accepted her son’s disability … and that very moment Kavya promised to look after her little one, love him and care for him. The whole family respected her decision and were always there to help her at each step. Just for Ansh, she studied everything about autism, from causes, diagnosis, screening, prevention, and management. She wanted to make her little one independent so that he could at least perform his daily rituals by himself. She put him on diet modification and biomedical intervention along with speech therapy. Kavya has not given up hope and works endlessly and reads a lot of research papers for her son.

This was Kavya’s story but there are many parents who don’t even realize that their child is suffering from autism till age 4. Autism cannot be cured completely but treatment can definitely make a child’s life worth living. A program which deals with helping parents and improving social, communication, adaptive, behavioural, and learning aspects of a child’s life are most successful.

Skating

My nephew is a special child who has a speech disability, ADD and a few behavioural issues. Both my sister and brother in law have made tremendous efforts with him. They have tried everything from diet modification to biomed intervention but one thing which they have not stopped is trying. Each day they start fresh and overcome each obstacle together. He has special speech therapy classes and goes to a normal school. He is empathetic, loving, caring and naughty like other children. He is a great skater and is the only child in the group who skates effortlessly with roller blade skates. For his age, he can crack any puzzles and play the most difficult video games. He is brilliant with various mobile applications.

Autistic children are very much a part of this world like normal children … please don’t ostracise them from the society just because they are special and are God’s best children. This world disability day let us welcome these children with open arms and treat them as any other child … and not only autistic children but any child or person with any form of disability. After all, they are all God’s creation and we as humans should not question him…

Do visit my first Vlog (video blog) below, specially dedicated to my nephew and all other children like him. This 12 minutes Youtube video will change the way you see their world…I BET!!!

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Shubhra Rastogi Written by:

Well, about me I can say that I am a certified dentist, healthcare analyst, medical writer and above all a mother of a 6-year-old. Most of my day to day activities revolve around her and she is my inspiration to start this blog. As a mother, I experimented with a lot of new things for my little one in a quest to find the best for her. I just want to share my experiences of being a happy and content mum.

12 Comments

  1. Faiza
    December 5, 2015
    Reply

    Simply outstanding . The few who know the boy believe he is gifted and I am lucky to be one of the few. Keep writing and keep touching hearts.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      December 6, 2015
      Reply

      Thanks… Yes indeed the little boy is gifted and we are lucky to know him…

  2. Sid
    December 5, 2015
    Reply

    Hi Shubhra,
    Two thumbs up for a great blog and putting together the lovely video. I hope lots of people read this and in return the awareness spreads and also the acceptability of the these lovely children in our society increases. We will be more than happy to help contribute towards the cause.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      December 6, 2015
      Reply

      Thanks a lot JJ…. Glad you liked it!!
      Awareness and acceptability regarding these children should definitely increase…

  3. Ram Kumar Singh
    December 5, 2015
    Reply

    Its a heart touching blog which gives a lesson and guide the parents with special children. The video is very nice.keep it up and continue writing. God bless you.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      December 6, 2015
      Reply

      Thanks a lot for your support…

  4. SHEFALI GUPTA
    December 6, 2015
    Reply

    great blog and kudos to the effort put in by you.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      December 6, 2015
      Reply

      Thanks a lot Didi!!

  5. rakesh gupta
    December 6, 2015
    Reply

    Guys, so touched by this blog. Sid and Vibhu, we are so proud of you both for all your efforts and patience. The whole family is by your side always. Shubhra, thanks for making a very informative and touching presentation.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      December 6, 2015
      Reply

      Thanks a lot Bhai!!

  6. July 20, 2017
    Reply

    Great post, my name is ron spinabella and i run a great blog and twitter account. I’m going to repost it for my followers.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      July 20, 2017
      Reply

      Thanks, Ron..

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