“It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.” – Ann Landers
Yesterday I came across a TED talk by Julie Lythcott-Haims. Julie is the author of the book How to Raise An Adult. She is also a former Dean of Freshmen at Stanford University.
In her talk, she discusses how to raise successful children without overparenting. Confused thinking how is this possible! At first, I was also taken aback that successful without overparenting, but then as I watched the video, the whole thing made sense to me.
We often think that by helping our children at every turn we are helping them, but no this is not so. Also, we feel that their grades are going to decide how successful they are going to be. Well, grades really don’t define success. We are all aware of this fact by know.
I try not to over-parent my daughter (though sometimes I can easily slip in the category of a helicopter or even a tiger mom), I make sure we follow
That winning and losing does not matter; what matters is that she participates
It is alright to show her emotions
Don’t rush to help her instantly
Let her do her homework on her own
I make her do her chores
Ask her to help me
Eat meals together
These are just a few things I try to follow in order to make her a happy person. Let me know what you do!