“Because when I look at you, I can feel it. And I look at you and I’m home.” — Dory, Finding Nemo
When my daughter was nine months old, she had already started mimicking our gestures and speech. She tried to copy our body language be it happy, sad or offensive. I could see how fast time was flying as the little one who used to sleep all day now wanted to ape her parents.
My daughter was not even 18 months and we had gone to a restaurant. While we were waiting for the food to come, at the neighbouring table a couple was seated with a little baby. The baby was crying uncontrollably. You won’t believe what my little one did; she opened my bag, took out her milk bottle and handed it to the baby’s mother. The baby’s mother and I were touched to see this gesture of hers. Tears rolled out of my eye thinking how such a young person could act so big.
In my journey of six years of parenting, I have realised that my daughter is unique but yet a mirror of me. I am a living model to her with each passing moment. She listens to the way I talk and speak with others, understands my body language, knows when I am sad, observes me intensely, is affected by my anxiousness and her happiness knows no limit when we share an expression of unconditional love.
The person my little one wants to become – she may not be meant to be or may have not chosen to be. This actually sounds like a wake-up call for me! For the way, I have moulded her and my deliberate or unconscious actions, body language, words, tone, AND I feel these are just the subtle control I have over her!
Since being a parent gives us an authority to control our child’s buttons we often take direct control over their lives. In doing so we often forget the thin line that lies between power and responsibility. Agree power and responsibility go hand in hand but all said and done we cannot force our child to become something they are not destined to become.
Thus indeed, we as parents are their first role models. Children see children do! isn’t it!
Being a parent is not easy and now I understand how difficult it must have been for our parents as well. Being a parent not only means taking care of our children but also taking care of our actions and behaviours which have an intense effect on them.
The past few weeks I went around observing children and trying to learn how they learn from their parents.
The first boy, 4-year-old, was happily playing on the swings. Suddenly, he noticed his friend looking for something. That very minute he got down from the swing and started helping him in his search and together they found the lost shoe in the bushes. The little boy also offered to put on the shoe for his friend. Though clumsy he took his time to slip on the shoe and help him, and here I was amazed that the young boy has great generosity and kindness to help a friend.
A group of young girls, around 8-10 years were talking away. One of them had given presents to everyone and wanted to know whether they liked it or not. Everyone just nodded, said thanks and that they liked it. No one wanted to be impolite and point out that it was rather ugly. However, one girl intervened and told exactly what she felt about the present. She did not want to be a part of the act of dishonesty. I did admire her for her candour. She did not hurt the other girl’s feelings and also did not lie regarding the same.
A friend’s daughter asked her mother what is result-oriented? She explained that while we all strive for the results it is very important to value the other things while achieving the results. At this, she told her mom that she valued attitude the most. The young girl was definitely mature and I sincerely pray that she always maintains her attitude.
And as I think of these admirable children, I can only think that they got their character from their parents. So yes, if these children are righteous, kind and caring, I am pretty sure that they reflect a part of who their parents are.
Hence, children are reflections of their parents and by this, I don’t just talk about their looks. Oh yes, if you don’t like the way they behave then do change the reflection!
This post is written for the prompt “Because when I look at you, I can feel it. And I look at you and I’m home.” Dory, Finding Nemo, as a part of #WeeklyBlogHop hosted by Alpana www.mothersgurukul.com & Neha www.growingwithnemit.com. I would like to thank Kushal from www.cafewhiz.com for introducing me to this blog hop and would like to introduce Noor from www.nooranandchawla.com to share her take on the prompt.