Challenges of Being A Pregnant Parent

Being pregnant is a wonderful feeling. Be it for the first time or the second. The only difference in being pregnant for the second time is that you are a parent as well.


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A friend of mine who is 21 weeks pregnant with baby number 2 often narrates her experiences and compares them to the time when she was expecting baby number 1. Some days she is as energetic as a fireball while on the others she just has to slog making the impossible possible. She firmly believes, that during the first pregnancy she was only pregnant, and with second pregnancy she has her own setbacks of already being a parent.

Being pregnant when you are a parent can be very difficult mentally, emotionally and physically. Physically, because dealing with pregnancy symptoms like nausea and fatigue along with looking after the other child. Mentally, because one has to be active all round the clock to cater to the needs of the existing child. And emotionally, well, pregnancy can make anyone emotional.

Oh yes if you already have a toddler, then it can become very difficult to explain to them the limitations you are facing. And as time advances it becomes harder to carry, chase and play with an energetic toddler. Also, the second time around one does not have the luxury to take breaks and naps like the first time.

Here are some challenges and the best ways you can survive them:

1. Morning Sickness:

My friend rather found it very difficult to toss up a meal for her child. Every time she would step into the kitchen she had a strong nauseating feeling which would make her dash for the bathroom.

Nausea, vomiting and morning sickness are very common in the first trimester. This is not considered to be normal but can be really irritating when you have to look after a child. Though these symptoms ease towards the second trimester, some days may feel very heavy.

Tip: To avoid nausea it is best to eat small but frequent meals. Spicy, sweet and too salty foods should be eliminated from the diet. Other than diet natural remedies like aroma diffusers, peppermint teas and ginger candies are also helpful in keeping nausea at bay.

2. Fatigue:

An acquaintance accepted that when she was pregnant the first time around she would make it a point to nap after work. But the second time around she found it rather challenging. On top of that, she had many sleepless nights which further worsened her fatigue.

Tip: To overcome fatigue, the best thing is to rest when you can. But being a pregnant parent can challenge this fact. It’s fine if the laundry for the day has not been done. Skip the laundry and rush in to take a power nap. If feeling too tired then try to just lie down on the bed, and yes don’t forget to snuggle your little one. Also, maintaining a regular sleep routine, avoiding phones and screens during bedtime help to a great extent.

3. Stress and Load:

Stepping out of bed is just very difficult when one has fatigue coupled with nausea. In this situation, unnecessary stress like dealing with toddler tantrums, an older child’s homework, housework, an unending argument can easily take a toll on the pregnant lady.

A colleague at work who has a toddler and is pregnant mentions that the hardest part is to maintain the willpower to be loving and caring towards baby number 1 and husband, rather than expressing emotions when she is feeling low.

Tip: It’s fine to feel low as lack of sleep can create havoc with the body. In such a situation, there is no harm in asking for help from your husband, friends and even extended family members. This just ensures that you get some rest.

4. Inability to entertain the existing child:

Pregnancy is not easy with backaches, swollen ankles, heartburn and lethargy. By the third trimester, the symptoms may worsen for some and make it hard for them to move around. This can be difficult as a parent.

An otherwise active mom said that she found it very difficult to move around in the last 6-8 weeks. This further dampened her spirits since she could not keep up with her energetic 3-year-old.

Tip: Explaining a toddler could be a bit difficult, but if you have been talking to them about the arrival of their sibling they understand. Make it clear to them that Mumma cannot do this. Let them know that it is a temporary phase. Try to make use of maximum indoor activities like painting, art and craft where you can bond with your child.

5. Don’t feel guilty:

Sometimes a bad feeling of being an inadequate mother may set in. Since you are already a parent and also pregnant, you may not find yourself giving 100 per cent to your child. You may find it difficult to meet your child’s needs and energy levels. There can be moments when you lose your cool. This is enough to set you on a guilt trip.

Tip: Let it go, don’t be so hard on yourself. After all, you are making a baby and working extra hard. It is perfectly fine not to be perfect. When at ease you can talk to your child and make them understand why mommy is behaving so erratic. I am sure they will understand.

Though pregnant parents may find it difficult to last the nine months journey, some also enjoy this time. Some feel overwhelmed but it is completely normal. Some say they were not alone in this journey and had help. This made it easy for them to rest and take care of baby number 1 as well. The bottom line is that make sure you give yourself some rest even if it means watching a lot of television 😉

Birth is not only about making babies. Birth is about making mothers… strong, competent, capable mothers who trust themselves and know their inner strength. – Barbara Katz Rothman Click To Tweet

Have you been through such a situation? If yes, I would love to know your incidents. If no, then all means I have no intention of scaring you. After all, be it any pregnancy, it is beautiful!

This post is written as a part of #WeeklyBlogHop hosted by Alpana from www.mothersgurukul.com & Neha from  www.growingwithnemit.com. Further, I would like to thank Kushal from www.cafewhiz.com for introducing me to this blog hop and would like to introduce Noor from www.nooranandchawla.com to share her post.

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Well, about me I can say that I am a certified dentist, healthcare analyst, medical writer and above all a mother of a 6-year-old. Most of my day to day activities revolve around her and she is my inspiration to start this blog. As a mother, I experimented with a lot of new things for my little one in a quest to find the best for her. I just want to share my experiences of being a happy and content mum.

22 Comments

  1. August 9, 2019
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    That’s a lovely article. I’m gonna share it with my friends. Loved the quote birth is about making mothers

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      August 9, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks, Sindhu. I loved the quote, the minute I saw it 🙂

  2. August 9, 2019
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    Shubhra, you are absolutely right. With second pregnancy, it gets tough as your first one is also there and your routine is not relaxed as it used to be. I haven’t gone through any of the pregnancy related issues like nausea, morning sickness. But since I am not in India and my parents could come only in the 9th month, it was tough to handle everything here.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      August 9, 2019
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      Kudos to you Alpana. The fact that you survived both it and walked out successful is a great achievement.

  3. August 9, 2019
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    Love the article and the way you handled the topic. Dealing with toddlers is exhausting and being pregnant inn the same time might get overwhelming. Bookmarked!

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      August 9, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks, Pragnya!

  4. Noor Anand Chawla
    August 9, 2019
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    I only have one child. My pregnancy was so difficult and I can’t even imagine how it would be to be pregnant while also taking care of your child! Good post with good tips!

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      August 9, 2019
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      Don’t worry it’s going to be beautiful,:)

  5. August 9, 2019
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    Pregnancy is a beautiful phase in every woman’s life 🙂
    I plan to write such posts in the future but these are handy for me when it comes to pregnancy phase :). I loved the first statement a lot: “Being pregnant is a wonderful feeling. Be it for the first time or the second. The only difference in being pregnant for the second time is that you are a parent as well.”
    #WeeklyBloghop #bloghop #GWNxMG

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      August 9, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks, Varsha!

  6. August 9, 2019
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    Very insightful read shubhra… i love all your write ups because they r very practical… you r right being a mother the second time comes with its share of issues however i feel there is a great level of comfort during the second pregnancy which comes from the fact that u r now experienced… u no what to expect when u r expecting…

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      August 9, 2019
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      Thanks, Kushal! I am glad you liked it.

  7. August 9, 2019
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    I am gonna share this article with my friend who is expecting for the second time. I am sure it gonna help her

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      August 10, 2019
      Reply

      Sure Priyal

  8. August 10, 2019
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    Pregnancy is the most beautiful phase in a woman’s life. Catering to the needs of first child when the second is ready to join is really challenging. Good post👍

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      August 10, 2019
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      Thanks, Aditi

  9. August 10, 2019
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    That’s a wonderful post, I would say it will help the mothers to prepare mentally for the challenges coming their way. My 1st pregnancy was quite difficult so there’s no chance I would want to experience that again 😀

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      August 10, 2019
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      Thanks, Neha

  10. Judy
    August 11, 2019
    Reply

    Aww that a strong message towards the end dear.. Yes pregnancy must be a tricky and difficult journey the second time though I have a single kid but I can imagine.

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      August 11, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks, Judy

    • Shubhra Rastogi
      September 16, 2019
      Reply

      Thanks for reading!

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