Tokophobia: Is it time yet?

It is quite normal for a woman to think about her labour pain, with her first pregnancy. Many are scared even at the thought of it while, some get goose bumps also. But how do you know it is time for labour?

When I was pregnant witlabour painh my daughter, like all pregnant mothers I had my set of problems. Morning sickness had become a usual routine of my day. My day would start by throwing up early morning and eventually end by throwing up before going to bed. This lasted till the mid of 5th month of my pregnancy, though I did not face any major issues in the rest of my pregnancy.

By the time I reached the full term of my pregnancy I was really fat – bloated up and had a continuous back pain. I had grown fat in all the body parts and not only around my tummy. My friends who saw me in the last leg of my pregnancy can vouch for that.

As I started the countdown, my close ones started asking me if I would be able to tell when I went into labour. I was scared, as I had heard numerous tales about labour pain. I waited patiently for the d’day with little anxiousness or must say too much. But let me make a confession today … I always felt that I am going to have a C-sec. I am also a caesarean thus may be this thought got embedded in my subconscious that I shall also have one.

In the 37th week my gynecologist told me that the baby is still high up and has not descended down. Never the less she told me not to worry as I still had time for the d’day and she was hopeful that the head might fix in the cervix. Each night I would go to bed praying that all goes well and I don’t have to be rushed to the hospital like they show in most of the movies. I did not want my water to break at some god forsaken place or pee out the mucus plug. In short I was scared.

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My d’day finally arrived and I did not show any signs of labour. My doctor ordered for an ultrasound. The ultrasound showed that my baby was warmly nestled up in my womb and was in no hurry to come out. Her head had still not fixed into the cervix. She did not want to check out from “Hotel Womb”. To make matters worse the umbilical cord had intertwined around the baby’s neck – not once but thrice – one hell of a naughty little one.

My doctor advised to go in for a caesarean. The minute I heard this word I started feeling guilty. I thought it might be because I had been thinking of a C-sec throughout my pregnancy. I took a day to consent for the same. I wanted to do some talking with my family, as a lot of help is required post C-sec. Finally, after hours of discussion and a debate over pros and cons I gave my consent for the same.

On 7th September, I did not eat anything through out the day as I was scheduled for an operation in the evening. I was anxious, nervous and scared. Finally, I was wheeled into the operation theatre at 4:30 in the evening and at 5 I was blessed with a healthy beautiful baby girl – my dream come true. When I heard her cry my guilt vanished and I happily dozed off under the effect of anaesthesia.

it's a girl

Though, I did not go into labour but common signs of labour pain are:

Also the following wonderful YouTube video can help you understand the soft signs of labour. All the best to all to be MomZ…

Shubhra Rastogi Written by:

Well, about me I can say that I am a certified dentist, healthcare analyst, medical writer and above all a mother of a 3 year old. Most of my day to day activities revolve around her and she is my inspiration to start this blog. As a mother, I experimented with lot of new things for my little one in a quest to find the best for her. I just want to share my experiences of being a happy and content mum.

2 Comments

  1. Usha Malik
    August 24, 2015
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    Wow beautiful sharing and my heart melts at the sight of your little bundle of joy Aarika. I can really relate to this experience of labor pain and child birth though it was long long back when my two angels/devils? came into my life or I brought them into this world. But even now, when I close my eyes I can remember both my deliveries very clearly; both were normal and when I think back, it has been the most satisfying experience in my life till now! I would say to all expectant mothers, if you can, please go for a normal delivery and experience the entire process of bringing your child into this world. You know the signs of labor and when it happens, the pain is overshadowed by the sight of your little creation , bound to you by the umbilical cord. Trust me, while you sweat and cry, you are overwhelmed by just only one feeling, the feeling that you have created life!!!! cheers to motherhood !!!

  2. Shubhra Rastogi
    August 24, 2015
    Reply

    Thanks a lot Ma’am!!!

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